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December 2014

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What difference do bralets, cupless and 1/4 cup bras make?

Posted 14/12/2014 at 19:51 Comments

Recently we've featured quite a few softcup bras, 1/4 cup bras, cupless bras, and bralets on the site, all of which have led to "but what's the point?" queries from folk, especially those at the bustier end of the spectrum.

So, this weekend I grabbed a selection of bras and the nearest pair or bosoms I had to hand, so to speak. These notes apply:

34 inch underbust, 40 inch overbust, ish, depending on the time of the month, cake levels, and other such vagaries.
Affected by gravity (at 36, considerably longer than most professional models)
No photoshop
Bras chosen for diversity and amusement value, not perfection of fit!
Accessorised with Karolina Laskowksa kimono silk pasties, and the KMD disco party owl. Just because.

For Science, I bring you 14 pictures of what wildly different bras look like on the same person!

The photographer would like to note that the Karolina Laskowska cupless bra (left) made a visible difference in real life - she felt it doesn't show up so much in a 2 dimensional front on image (I thought about doing pictures from the sides as well, but this took a while and I really wanted my lunch).

The reason a cupless bra is worth bothering with is a) underwire and underbust bands actually form a considerable amount of the shape and support bras give (think about Greek breast bands or Roman Strophium)  and b) whilst technically you're pretty much as nekkid whether you're cupless or completely braless, the bands and/or frou frou lacy bits do actually make an aesthetic statement which can be considered more interesting, alluring, or tantalising. It just depends on what you like.

The left hand bra is from Valisere, the more sophisticated brand from the company that makes Triumph. The sheer sections are deliberately asymmetric here to show that they are movable (in fact, they hook onto a fastening at the gore) and that all the shape and support is coming from a fairly skimpy cup. As a side note, what you can't see is the glittery peacock feather embroidery.

The right hand bra is from a newish indie brand, Loveday London, and they say it's a demi cup bra, but the cup part is quite small, with the rest being made of Guipere lace. Happily for them, as producing many sizes is harder for small brands, between the cut away cup and the adjustable straps, it comes in S,M and L.  The padded leather is impressively good for pushing up!


Left is the KMD Sirena. We do try and tell people that quite often your nipples will fall out of it, but we can't show that or our pictures get banned everywhere, so hopefully the clashing kimono pasties illustrate the design. Personally, I think nipples are much sexier than boosted cleavage, but its horses for courses.

On the right is a full cup bra that has no padding; it's by Rosy (a long standing French brand) and it's mostly lace over none stretch mesh. I included it because many people assume that full cups equal more uplift or shaping. This isn't always true; a relatively unstructured full cup like this gives softer shaping (this can make it much more comfortable for all day wear).

The KMD Jacquotte bra (left) is based on the KMD Alouette and is a classic push up padded plunge, though apparently by US standards the padding is quite minimal. It's the most contemporary rounded cleavage shape we do.

Our Blue Tempest (right) is based on 50's shell bras and is an interesting fit, as although the centre gore is pushed out here (in theory for a good fit it should fit flat against your chest), there's very little room for falling out or jiggling about in this style.

Onto bralets! On the left is La Lilouche, which is a stretchy band with none stretch tulle cups, of a sort. The band itself makes a difference; the cups, not so much, though if they could be shortened or made into a halter neck then they might offer some shape or uplift.

On the right is the KMD Fifi, which we recommend for A-C and we say will have side-boob; here you can see why.

These are more structured bralets; on the left, the Playful Promises Opulence, which has no padding, and is satin over none stretch lining. It has more shape than the previous two bralets, and feels more secure. Meanwhile, we have at least one customer who goes jogging, rather unexpectedly, in the KMD bralet on the right. The Van Doren Bralet has a thick underbust band of elastic, and has dance/swimwear fabric over a foam lining, with deep powernet wings and wide straps.  You can see that on bigger busts you do tend to lose the retro cut-out detail at the base though.

What if you really love the look of a bralet but you really want more support? Give layering a whirl. We put the KMD Fifi and the KMD Peach Ida over the Van Doren, but if you want it to be less obvious, a plunge bra in your skin colour or in a shade that works with the bralet (this is one of many reasosn we trim everything in black) will give support without interfering with the  aesthetics usually.

Which bra shape do you prefer? Which do you most often wear? Let us know in the comments :)


German and Deadly? Take a look at Doppel-D!

Posted 12/12/2014 at 11:18 Comments

Most of us like to buy our goodies in our own country - faster delivery, no import duty, no ridiculous exchange rate fees or bank charges . . . and of course around Christmas, New Year and Valentines you might have deadlines! So this year we're going to tell you a bit more about Kiss Me Deadly, we've sent one of the deadlies off to interview them about what makes them special.


Doppel D ist ein Damen-Lingerie-Spezialist für große Größen, der Panache, Fantasie, Freya, Elomi und vieles mehr auf Lager hat. Besucht deren Website hier.

Das in Berlin gelegene Geschäft Doppel D hat sich entschieden, einige seiner besten Kundinnen in wundervollen Dessous in einem Online-Adventskalender zu präsentieren. Kundinnen unterschiedlichen Alters mit verschiedenen Körperformen und –größen wurden ausgewählt, um zu einem Fotoshooting zu kommen und daran teilzunehmen. Ihr könnt den Adventskalender hier sehen und an einem Preisausschreiben teilnehmen, denn jeden Tag gibt es tolle Preise zu gewinnen.

Diese Aktion kommt dem sehr nahe, was uns selbst besonders am Herzen liegt: Wir haben – etwas früher in diesem Jahr – unsere eigene sehr erfolgreiche Deadly Catwalk Show veranstaltet – lest darüber hier und schaut Euch Impressionen dieser Nacht hier an..

Am 14. Dezember präsentiert der Kalender die KMD Cupless Vargas und zeigt, wie vielseitig sie sind, da Ihr sie mit jedem Eurer BHs tragen könnt!




So, German and Deadly? Doppel D are a fuller bust lingerie specialist, stocking Panache, Fantasie, Freya and Elomi among others.

Based in Berlin, with a website here, Doppel-D decided to feature some of their best customers wearing their beautiful lingerie in an online Advent Calendar. They chose customers of different ages, different body types and sizes to come along to a photo-shoot and take part. You can see the Advent Calendar here and enter to win a competition each day. This is something that runs close to our own heart, having had our own hugely successful Deadly Catwalk Show earlier this year – read about it here and watch a potted version of the night here.

On the 14th December the calendar features the KMD Cupless Vargas, showing how versatile it is, as you can wear it with any of your bras!

And this is Doppel-D themselves in Kiss Me Deadly  Pink Alouette Cinchers - I remember dressing them in these, and they were much smilier when a camera wasn't pointed at them!

9 ways to help ensure your loved one deeply objects to her lingerie gift

Posted 09/12/2014 at 11:31 Comments

Every year from November through February, I get sent links to gift guides; "Men! How to buy lingerie for your girlfreind" and the like, all of which seem to be based on the idea that men have no idea about knickers and are incapable of having an adult conversation about such things. Let's run through some of the truly genious ideas they come up with:

1) Look in her underwear drawer to check her size.

Yes, that won't make you look like a creepy pervert stalker AT ALL. There is literally nothing that can go wrong with this plan apart from that, excepting possibly that most women, if not all, have a drawer full of undies in varying sizes and styles, because between hope, reality, hormones, sales, and the inneffable nature of bra sizing, the one thing you can pretty much guarantee is that there's unlikely to be 100% consistency in sizes. Have you considered just asking her instead? It's a radical notion, but communicating with the important people in your life can help things.



2) Check what she usually wears, so you get a feel for similar styles you could buy her.

Yes, because if she mostly wears beige T-Shirt bras for work, both of you will be deeply, deeply excited and thrilled by the very special joy of opening yet another beige T-Shirt bra in spangly wrapping paper, plus also, you are totally going to learn the difference between 8 different bra shapes that you have zero investment in outside of this in the run-up to Christmas. Or - you could ask her what she would wear if budget and practical considerations were not an issue?

3) Look at her general fashion choices.

Because literally all major fashion trends are accurately reflected in lingerie, which is why no-one has ever worn a modern dress over a retro suspender belt and neon bras never end up in the sales. (They always end up in the sale)

4) Buy the accessories

Yes, a pair of fluffy high heeled mules, eye mask and hold-ups have universal appeal and there are absolutely no women who will laugh at any of those. 

5) Buy silk

God help me, I love silk. It's a gorgeous, lustrous, lovely feeling fabric and natural to boot. You know what it also is? REALLY HIGH MAINTENANCE. Does your giftee have the time, enthusiasm, or physical capacity to carefully hand wash this garment in a sink of cold water and special handwash soap, then in just cold water, then in cold water with softner, carefully drip dry it away from anything that could get colour transfer, and then steam or press it?  If yes, can they come and do mine please? Or you can send it to good laundrettes.

If they don't, and you are still adoring silk, then silk jersey or silk mixed with a little elastane is easier, or buy garments that have small panels of silk rather than  acres. It's also fair to say that even if you don't go for silk, it's wise to test the fabrics -  scratchy fabrics of any sort (lace is notoriously the issue) make people sad.

6) Choose for her, not for you

There's a part of me really likes this idea . . . and generally I think gifts should be for the recipient . . . but this advice is really predicated on the idea that what men and women like in lingerie is radically different and that women won't want anything new or different. Is that really true? Have you tried talking to her about it? Or maybe an afternoon together in a place (or website) with lots of different styles? 

7) Keep it classy

The minute you use the word classy you a) have a problem, because no-one agrees on what that is and that conversation can only go downhill, and b) you're in the grip of an advertorial from people who want to upsell you from a bra and knicker set to a lace applique silk slip with matching robe. 

8) Buy pyjamas

I know a large number of women who might well kill you  if you buy them pyjamas. I only wear them for blogging. We have a problem if you think that's a great gift, unless what you've got is some amazing loungewear piece in fabulous fabric.

9) Buy it in the sale of when a discount is on, thus almost guaranteeing that it is late and not being able to exchange the size.

OK, so this is not a tip you ever see, but it is something Rose has to deal with every year. And there is nothing wrong with being budget conscious - don't mess up your life for pants! Half the things in my wardrobe were bought on sale.

But, I know that when I buy on a sale, even if the brand wants to give me the same level of service as usual, the practicalities mean they probably can't; think about the difference between visiting a lovely calm boutique with a staff member just for you, versus the rummage-in-the-bargain-boxes-on-fold-up-tables-for-maybe-your-size scrum that is sample sales! Exactly the same thing happens online. If you want the best service and to meet your deadline and to be able to exchange sizes - planning is awesome.


Do you want to know how lingerie designers do lingerie gifts? This year and last we've been doing a lingerie secret santa.  Plenty of us have really enjoyed it, precisely because we get something that we wouldn't necessarily have chosen for ourselves. Like pastel pink for me, for example.

Here's the info we ask for to help make it work well!

Top and bottom dress sizes  - sometimes people aren't the same size above the waist as below, and these are used a rough guide; always check size charts for a brand.

Bra size - again, used as a rough guide, and each country and sometimes each brand uses a different system, sorry.

Bust, waist, and hip measurements  - these are ideal for finding the right size, though some people can be uncomfortable giving them. Sometimes in our stores, if people are happier, we measure but don't tell them the actual numbers, if that's something that can get them in a headpsin.

Thigh measurements - sounds strange but some of the nicest accessories out there are garters. You wouldn't think you can go wrong with these as they are stretchy and usually one size fits most, but there are always plenty of people who aren't quite a standard fit for whatever reason.

Do you have any preferences on garment styles, shapes or colours? (e.g. no thongs, no pink, no strappy details) - this helps us rule out products or brands that really don't suit each other!

Where do you trade from, and are your products made to order or custom sized? - we need to know this for that all important planning malarky! If you want a custom made corset for someone for Valentines from the other side of the world, for example, then you'd need to start now!

You know, or gift vouchers are actually a thing.

Australian and Deadly? Check out Sweetpins and their Salon events!

Posted 09/12/2014 at 10:55 Comments

Most of us like to buy our goodies in our own country - faster delivery, no import duty, no ridiculous exchange rate fees or bank charges . . . and of course around Christmas, New Year and Valentines you might have deadlines! So this year we're going to tell you a bit more about Kiss Me Deadly, we've sent one of the deadlies off to interview them about what makes them special.

So, Aussie Deadlies – did you know that our stockist, Sweet Pins, run awesome Salon events? You can head off to glamorous locations and learn how to unlock your inner seductress.

These are exclusive events run around Australia that show you how to make the most of your stockings and vintage inspired lingerie, what to look for in great shape wear, how to style it, and offer personalised fitting advice.

Designed to make you feel at ease, these evenings are a fabulous mix of fun, learning and hedonism that will leave you feeling and looking wonderful.

Some of the topics covered include:

– Introduction to stockings and foundation garments
– The real essence of glamour
– Lingerie styling – learn how to enhance your best assets and flaunt them with confidence!
– Creating your own boudoir
– Fall in love with your body
– Deportment; how to walk, sit and move elegantly
– Master the art of tease

Why not take a friend along to one of the nights ? It's hard to resist champagne and canapés, a goody bag, discounts on shopping on the night, and learning how to make the most of your inner pinup!

You could even send us some photos afterwards on our How Do You Wear Yours page.

Sweet Pins will be releasing more dates for the New Year soon – so keep checking their website for details, and if you want to indulge yourself in the meantime, why not see what they have in stock from us right now?